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help me understand ...

why is it that it is so hard for a black girl to get a Asian guy?
why is it that Asian guys want to hang out with you but not really date?
i have meet Chinese . Korean . and Filipino guys that all seem to tell you one thins and do another.. Why is that ??

hm.. I think if guys, nevermind where they are from, who just look after visual nature, are just kids!
really, if someone loves, its fuckin equal how the other looks like!

and hey.. don't be different in 'white girls and black girls' why should you be worse than white girls? WHY?
can't you be pretty or beautiful? oh yes, you can! black girls have more rhythm in the blood, dont look boring etc.

so, if guyz can't see the true prettyness, they are dumb like bread!

I like bread they taste good, especially the one with sesame on them.

What happened to the other thread?

I think that there are many reasons. Media factor is well-known. So, let me talk about another thing - different sense of beauty.

Traditionally, beauty of skin was the symbol of female beauty in Korea. You can see the difference from western sense of female beauty - big boobs, long legs, and sexy body lines, They were introduced to Korea about 60 years ago by western influence. They were not part of female beauty in Korea just in 60 years. Still, skin beauty is one of the strongest factors attracting Korean males.

But for some reason, western people enjoy sun tan too much often damaging skin. It seems that they think that tanned skin is more attractive.

Black people are known for nice and smooth skin. A black girl with clean and nice skin looks very attractive. But it seems that they don't care much about skin because their sense of beauty is different from Koreans.

However appearance is just surface level attraction. I think that we all know that the most important thing is personality. But personality factor works only after you have some time with him.

I know about the skin stuff...i keep my skin in tip top shape... that was one of the first things that my Korean guy friend liked about me... every time we hang out he will just gently rub my face.. and pinch my cheeks.. he told me that he could not be leave my skin was so nice the first time we meet.. ...... be sides from a few pimples and dark marks.. i think my skin is nice ..

Ok, I'll give you a thorough answer.

According to statistics...
least desirable men = Asian
least desirable women = Black
Lowest ratio of inter racial marriage = asian male/ black female

In theory, they should get together especially with urban music etc, but statistically, its not happening...heres why...

1a) Popular culture, is one area which makes blacks in general appealing to non-blacks, notably music, dress, dance etc. However, in the UK, the blacks are either professional types, mostly foreigners/immigrants from west indies or Africa with thick african or westindian accents. They're basically foreigners with completely unknown alien culture to me. The British born blacks are mostly brought up in built up urban cities and have ghetto twangs when they speak, this totally turns me off. I hate ghetto/urban music, dance and dress and worst of all 'ghetto swagger/attitude.'

1b) geographically, in western world, black community is largely segregated from asian community. i.e ghettoisation, lack of integration. In the eastern world, black women are no where to be seen. I have never seen a black woman in my life in the Far East, black women aren't choosing the far east as a target destination for employment, study etc. I personally, have no close black friends and have never been inside a black persons house.

2) Physically, black male archetype and asian male archetype are completely different. So black women arent going for asian men.

3) Theres a general perception that physical features of black females are undesirable. Bubble lips have always been seen as ugly and only became acceptable as a sign of beauty after promotion by a non-black woman i.e angelina jolie. But do people make the same beauty connection with a black women? Debatable. Black women have flatter noses and wider nostrils, even Latoyah jackson had hers closed. Undoubtedly, a slim nose is much more desirable. Even in chinese culture, women with a short flat fat nose with no bridge is considered ugly. Black women are often perceived to be very aggressive verbally, too much attitude and physically heavy, the anti-thesis of a stereotypical feminine petite oriental woman.

4) Bartok is too PC. Its not the smoothness, its the colour thats the bigger issue. White skin in east asian culture is considered upper class like pearl, black skin is lower caste= low desirability. This is a convention of beauty passed down from history. Today, Black women, hispanic women, even chinese women who are already pale buy skin bleaching lotions. Why? because its desirable to have pale skin. Even black men prefer black women with lighter skinned tones as 'brownies' as they call them.

5) Generally Asian men give consideration to their parents wishes in choosing a wife. Its safe to assume most FOB asian parents dont want a black daughter in law. Sorry, but in my experience, its true. I mean of course you can date, but try pushing it to the next level and you'll understand better.

6) More specifically in your case... some guys dont want to date their friends because if they have a fling with them and they split up, they'll lose them as a friend and they would rather keep them as a friend by not dating them. E.g, This happened to a friend of mine, when his female friend made a pass at him. he told me it was that exact reason.

7) just because you are friends with someone of a different race doesnt necessarily mean you want to date them and vice versa and it doesnt mean theyre open to inter racial dating. I have muslim friends, do muslims want to date me and vice versa? Of course not.

i could not even read all this.... i think your wrong on so much ways .... it's people like you that keep us apart... i would like to know if any body believes the crap this guy is posting.... i am not easily offended so tell me what you other people think..

yeah i know i am a ad min of one of the groups .. i have met a few Asian guy for there ...

To be honest knowing why doesn't help you.

We know exactly why us Asians are unattrative to general female including that we are powerless, low stature, squinty eyes and etc etc.. ( Truthfully I can't even think of why some women are attracted to us! ). I can probably fill up a A4 page with the list but Knowing any of these won't help because they are simply unchangeable!

All I can do is to prevent all this negative thoughts which will ultimately effect how I behave and misrepresent who I am ( which I often find it difficult and I'm still at a point of finding who I am) and idyll's got a point there, every individual is different! It's hard but you just have to keep looking.